Presents are sometimes funny with kids. At least with my kids. They’re pretty possessive at first, and do NOT want to share. Which, really, I can totally understand. When you first pull out a brand new thing and three people sidle up to you, begging to play, demanding a turn, that really sucks. So we have a pretty solid rule that states the kids do not have to share their new stuff for the first day or two. And then we get into turns and whatnot.
For Rowan’s birthday, he got some great stuff. And lo and behold, he hasn’t been afraid to share this time around! In my opinion, this shows some real maturity!
Yesterday, Rowan pulled out his new puzzle and asked that Laela come build it with him. It is definitely within his grasp to build on his own, but he knows Laela loves Dog Man, too. So they shared. And it was awesome.
Rowan also built his new lego set the other day. Its his first, real, grown up lego set. His set can be disassembled and built into a second thing. He had started it the other day, but hadn’t had the time to finish it. This morning, while he and Dekker did the breakfast dishes, Solly brought his new set upstairs and started to pick at it a little.
It was clear that Ro felt a little nervous, but in such a sweet voice, he assured Solly that he would LOVE to build it with him after he was done dishes. He reassured him “I will help you read the instructions, Solly. We can do it together.” It was a really incredible thing to overhear rather than “But its MIIIIIINE!”
When Rowan and Dekker had finished the dishes, Ro went to join Solly with the lego, and saw that Solly had kind of built onto the project wherever he felt so inclined. Rowan kind of sighed, but he rallied easily and figured it was ok. Brady reminded him that lego can always come apart. And he took that and ran with it!
And guys. It worked!
This seems small, but it isn’t. These sibling wins bring such relief to my heart. The kids sharing is a win. The kids playing side by side without grumbling is a win. Solly opening his brain up a bit more and learning how to build with instructions is a win. A sibling teaching him is a win.
So. Many. Wins.
Today feels like a good day for the kids 💜