The Daily Hailey

This post will be good and bad. Be warned. Haha! Not in an actual bad way, but in the way that I have a lot less info this week. Because I’ve been shirking my note taking duties on Rowan’s progress. Because the days have been so much smoother. See how I mean its good and bad?

We have not had a big ugly tantrum this week. Not one. He still gets upset about the same things, but he is SO much easier to reason with. I didn’t understand the level of irrationality until he was rational. Its just been such a big change.

To celebrate this third part of Rowan’s series, I’m going to tell you a success story from the week. If you remember the story I told you about him giving up his milk straw for his siblings, todays story actually happened on the same day. The first time I wrote “GREAT DAY” in his record book.

I was out during bedtime. When I came home, Brady mentioned that Rowan had requested I come give him a goodnight hug if I was home in time. It was around 7:30, which is usually when we check on Rowan, and he’s often asleep. So I decided I’d go check on him and give him his hug. He was awake, but very dozey. I snuggled him for a minute and then left.

Supper began for us adults downstairs, and we started a movie. And suddenly, Rowan was at the top of the stairs, like he always used to be, making up excuses to be up. We asked him to go back to his bed, and he pushed back, insisting he had to go to the bathroom. Now, don’t get me wrong, our kids are allowed to pee. There’s a bit more to it than I’m explaining here, and you’ll have to trust me when I say we knew he didn’t need another bathroom break. He argued and got upset and started to get loud. Brady went to him, and tried to reason. It wasn’t happening. I spoke to him, and pointed out that we were trying to eat our supper, and enjoy our evening, and he was taking that away just because he didn’t want to obey. He stayed angry, slumped on the stairs for a few seconds, and then he reached for Brady for a hug. On his own, he offered up “I’m sorry for yelling at you, daddy.” Brady asked him if he actually had to pee, and he immediately admitted he didn’t. From the couch, Cher and I praised him up big for being so honest. He asked to hug me too, so I gave him a hug, and then he went back upstairs and tucked into bed. We didn’t see him again that night.

Rowan has always had an amazing softness to his heart, where he thinks of other people and cares deeply for people. I truly believe that he will end up in some type of career where he cares for people. Perhaps the coolest male nurse the world will ever see! But when he was struggling SO hard, he was just trying to stay afloat. Now, he can breathe, and reason, and think SO much more clearer.

I am SO impressed with Rowan’s beautiful progress!